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Obituary for Mrs. Pamala G. Elmendorf

May 29, 1924 - September 27, 2018
Fanwood, New Jersey | Age 94


Pamala Goodwill Elmendorf was born May 29, 1924 in Southern Pines, North Carolina. She peacefully passed away in her home in Fanwood, New Jersey on Thursday, September 27th, 2018 surrounded by loved ones. She was 94 years old.

She is survived by a son Thomas (Susan) Darrell Elmendorf and two daughters, Sheryl Laliberte and Rayna Elmendorf; Four grandsons, Bryan (Alana) Laliberte, Jeffrey (Angela) Laliberte, Craig (Anna) Laliberte, Nicholas Laliberte and two granddaughters Lauren (Michael) Elmendorf Kleamenakis and Christine Elmendorf; and 10 great grandchildren. Also survived by one brother Francis Gilland Goodwill, Jr. and a host of nieces and nephews. She is predeceased in death by her husband of 58 years, Ray Augustus Elmendorf, her brother Phillip Goodwill and her parents, Francis Gilland Goodwill, Sr. and Winona Ringwald Goodwill

Born in Southern Pines, North Carolina in 1924, Pamala was raised in Roanoke, Virginia. She received an undergraduate degree in Mathematics and Home Economics at Flora McDonald College (now St. Andrews University, Laurinburg, NC). She was awarded the Pratt & Whitney Fellowship in Engineering at North Carolina State College. Pam worked for General Foods and Standard Oil (Exxon) where she met her husband, Ray. In later years, and while raising her family, she was a substitute teacher in a variety of subjects. She enjoyed summers camping with her husband of 58 years at Lake Wallenpaupak in the Poconos.

Pam had a love of life, many interests and enjoyed helping others. She was a talented seamstress and quilter. As a member of the Diocese of New Jersey Eccelesiastical Embroidery Group, Pam taught Ecclesiastical Embroidery at her beloved St. Paul's Church in Westfield, where she and Ray attended for over 50 years. As part of her ecclesiastical embroidery activities, she was instrumental in making and providing church vestments to many churches in New Jersey as well as missionary groups. Pam was a member of the New Jersey Quilter's Guild. She shared her love of quilting and related crafts such as rug braiding, crocheting, knitting by teaching locally but was most noted for her quilting which she taught for many, many years and that continued on with her beloved Monday Night quilters. In addition to her talented handiwork, Pam taught handicapped swimming for many years at Summit Y and was a founding member of the Synchronized Swim team of the Westfield Dolphins. Pam was also an active member of St Paul's Church Altar Guild and participated and helped to organize many church activities, including the annual Rummage Sale, a monthly Soup Kitchen and many more church activities. Pam also brought smiles to family and friends as she shared her joy of baking pies with all during every holiday.

A memorial service will be held on Thursday, October 18, 2018 at 11:00 a.m. at St. Paul's Episcopal Church, 414 East Broad Street, Westfield. Burial of her ashes will be at the Garth at St. Paul's Episcopal Church. Arrangements by Gray Funeral Home, Westfield. You may go to for on line condolences.

Memorial Donations are preferred to Friends of Music at St. Paul's.

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